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I don’t know if I’m ready to think about my why’s.
What the hell does that mean?
So, I’ve only recently started listening to podcasts. Yeah, yeah. I’m always running behind. I’ve enjoyed Fit Bottomed Girls blog for some time and now listen to their podcast. They recently interviewed Patricia Moreno (here and here) and it really got me to thinking about two things.
- Your thoughts drive your life.
- You need to dig deep and figure out your why.
These are the notes that I jotted down after listening to the first podcast, twice:
- Your self-talk is your destiny
- The things you say to yourself constantly becomes your destiny
- How you feel as result of what focusing on, what saying to yourself and how you’re moving your body.
I’ve been pushing myself to lose weight and to work on my novel. At one point I though about writing ‘fat’ on the back of one hand and ‘lazy’ on the back of the other to remind myself what not to be. OMG!!! What kind of messages am I giving to myself!? Why the hell would I tell myself that I’m fat and lazy!? Why would I think that about myself and why would I want to reinforce those beliefs about myself?
But I don’t know if I’m ready to do the deep digging and find out why I’m so mean to myself. If someone called me fat and lazy, would I just accept that as truth? No, I’d be pissed off and hurt. So why do I allow myself to talk to me that way? I just don’t know if I’m ready for the emotional toll it will take to do this digging into why.
I catch myself operating on an emotional anesthesia track. If it gets too tough, too hard, too real, then I back off (do laundry), do something that requires little thought or mental work, tell myself there’s nothing I can do about it (whatever it is) in the moment and push it on the back burner.
My back burner must be close to an avalanche.
I’m going to have to dig. But I’m afraid of what I’ll find.
Since I’m not tackling that right now, I can tackle a bit of my self-talk. No putting ‘fat’ or ‘lazy’ on my hands but what would I write on my hands to give me the better message? Grateful. Love. Healthy. Strong. Worthy. Peace.
Since I’m not writing on my hands and am not ready for a tattoo, I’m thinking it might be bracelet making time.
Another thing Patricia spoke about was writing down something you’re grateful for each day and that it sounds ridiculous, but the consistency of it will slowly change your self-talk.
Today I’m grateful for Patricia Moreno and Fit Bottomed Girls for giving me such powerful things to think about.